Dear Annabel Manners,
I hope you can help. My husband and I have a 2-month-old. This summer, we are flying across the country so his parents can meet the baby.
My mother-in-law is very excited. She keeps joking that the baby won’t be able to keep up with our social schedule of meeting all her friends. I am trying to keep us on track in terms of naps, feeding, etc and I’m already worried that this will be too much.
How do I tell her to calm down?
New Mom in Cambridge, MA
Dear New Mom,
Congratulations on your little one! I can understand why you might feel anxious. You’re working hard to establish a routine while your mother-in-law has visions of parading your newborn all over town.
One idea that might help? A southern tradition known as the Sip & See.
Maybe you (or your husband) can suggest hosting a little party during your visit. That way, everybody can see the baby during a tidy two-hour window instead of booking lunches, brunches, and dinners every day that you’re there.
Best of all, you can adapt a Sip & See to fit the baby’s schedule. You can do it from 10 to 12 (with coffee and pastries), 1 to 3 (with tea and cookies) or 4 to 6 (with cocktails and apps).
There’s nothing much too it – a gaggle of well-wishers comes over to sip on something and peek at the baby and that’s that.
If you need inspiration, consider the adorable invitations shown here. (Visit Ashley Brooke Designs for more information.)
Here’s another cute option from Crane & Co.
As for the rest of your visit, I’m sure your mother-in-law will respect the schedule you’re trying to keep. She’s a new grandmother — that’s something to celebrate, too!
If you include her in your routine, I bet she’ll be more than happy to help you stick to it.
Have fun and take lots of pictures!
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