Thank-You Notes for Group Gifts

Hi Annabel!

I have an etiquette question that I was hoping you might be able to help me with. My fiance’s parents recently gave my fiance and I an engagement party. I am in the process of writing thank you cards and I am unsure about what to do about one.WeddingThankYou

My fiance’s sister and her two young daughters chipped in with his brother and his brother’s girlfriend to give us a lovely painting. Who do I send the thank you card to? One to each person? One to his sister and her daughters and then one to the brother and girlfriend? Or just one addressed to all of them?

The sister, brother, and the kids live in the same house. The girlfriend lives somewhere else. I’m just not sure what to do! I appreciate any advice. Thanks!

Best wishes, S

Dear S.,

Congratulations on your engagement! 🙂

Because most of the gift contributors live together, you could technically send one thank-you note, although that would be an awful lot of names to cram onto a single envelope.

But if you think about it, the painting is really from your future sister-in-law and future brother-in-law. To that end, I suggest sending two glowing thank-you notes: one addressed to the sister and her children, the other to the brother and his girlfriend. (In this case, it’s fine to put her name on the card even though they don’t live together.)

Be sure to tell both siblings how excited you are to be part of their family and how much you and your fiance appreciate the special gift. I’m sure you’ve already done this, but just in case you haven’t, don’t forget to write a note to your future in-laws thanking them for the lovely party.

Best of luck with the wedding planning!

Graciously yours,


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