What do you do when you’re stuck with someone you don’t want to talk to at a party? It happened to me last weekend. I got trapped on a couch with the most boring girl in the world and I couldn’t get anyone to come save me!
– CP from Austin
I know exactly what you mean. If you get cornered by the wrong person, a social situation can become a hostage situation in no time.
Let’s say you’ve put in the requisite 10 minutes or so of polite party chatter. After that, it’s perfectly acceptable to extricate yourself and move on. Resist the urge to wave over the first friend you see. This just means you’ll both be trapped! Instead, create a plausible distraction, then wriggle free.
Here are a few time-tested strategies:
- Drain your glass, then say, “Look at that! I need a refill.” Or, “You know what, I’d better switch to water. Will you excuse me?”
- Shamelessly invoke the host or hostess. “You know what, I’m going to go see if Kate needs any help. Have fun!”
- Cleave onto a stranger. “That girl has on the most adorable cardigan. I’m going to go ask her who made it.” (This one is a little risky. Your captor may follow you, but at least you won’t have to handle it solo.)
- Spot your hubby or boyfriend (the same fellow who ignored your desperate telepathic signals) and make a run for it. “Oh, THERE he is. Will you excuse me?”
Note that these strategies also work for single girls who’ve been cornered by unsuitable suitors. Just adapt them to fit the circumstances. “Nice talking to you, Tedious Tad.” [GESTURE TO YOUR PURSE] “Someone keeps texting me. I’m going to slip away and see who it is.”
Hope that makes your next outing less oppressive!